生活中，你要有一双善于发现美的眼睛，而不仅仅是一张挑剔的嘴。
生活中，你要有一双善于发现美的眼睛，而不仅仅是一张挑剔的嘴。
会欣赏别人，内心富有善意；然而，那些总是吹毛求疵的人，他们的生活中除了荒凉一无所有。
会欣赏别人，内心富有善意；而一味挑剔的人，人生只有荒芜。
欣赏是一种智慧，更是一种境界。
欣赏是一种智慧，更是一种境界。
学会欣赏别人，你会变得更好。
学会欣赏别人，你会成为一个更好的人。
网上有个热门问题：为什么有些人总是看不起别人？
网上有个热门问题：为什么总有人觉得别人不讨人喜欢？
高赞回答说：“因为心胸狭窄，所以总是敌视别人，无限夸大别人的缺点，忽视别人的优点。"
高赞回答说：‘因为他心胸狭窄，总是敌视别人，放大他们的缺点，忽略他们的优点。’
在生活中，很容易发现别人的缺点，却很少能认识到别人的优点。
在生活中，很容易发现别人的不好，但很难认识到别人的好。
我侄女的公司来了个新同事，和她差不多大，长得很漂亮。
在我侄女的公司里，有一个和她年龄相仿的漂亮的新同事。
一次聊天，提到了新同事，她撇撇嘴说：
在一次谈话中提到她的新同事时，她撇了撇嘴说道
“哎，真的长得好看的人比一般人更受欢迎，只是不知道自己的能力是什么？”
‘哎，果然长的好看的人，人缘比一般人好，只是不知道能力怎么样？’
话外，我听出一丝酸意。
在字里行间，我察觉到一股酸味。
但是，今年国庆见到侄女，提到新同事的时候，她的态度有了很大的转变。
但是今年国庆见到侄女，她又提到了新同事，态度大变。
原来，不久前，她和新同事一起负责一个中秋宣传项目。
原来，不久前，她和新同事一起负责一个中秋宣传项目。
在合作过程中，她发现新同事都很有能力，并不是传说中的“花瓶”。
在合作过程中，她发现她的新同事很有能力，不是传说中的‘花瓶’。
“虽然她来公司比我晚几个月，但是她做的营销方案，从细节到创意，真的比我好很多。
尽管她比我晚来公司几个月，但她做了一个好得多的营销计划，从细节到创意。
她也很细心。如果不是她指出了我方案中的一个重要数据错误，我的方案可能已经被扼杀了。"
她也是
very careful, and if she hadn't pointed out an important statistical error in my plan, it might have been killed."后来，侄女还跟我感叹，项目结束后，新同事对她说合作愉快，说从她身上学到了很多。
Later, my niece sighed to me that after the project, her new colleagues told her that they had a pleasant cooperation and learned a lot from her.
“想想很惭愧，她刚来公司那会我还有点嫉妒她，现在更多的是佩服，她让我知道自己有哪些不足。”
"It's a shame to think about it. When she first joined the company, I was a little jealous of her, but now I admire her more. She lets me know what my shortcomings are."
作家张小娴曾说：“生命太短，没时间自怜，也没时间嫉妒。”
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said, "Life is too short to feel sorry for yourself or be jealous."
嫉妒不会使人变好，唯有欣赏才会。
Jealousy does not make people better, only appreciation.
如果你只看到别人的缺点，就很难有长进。
It's hard to grow if you only look at people's faults.
如果你善于发现别人身上的优点，就能够取长补短，日渐增益。
If you are good at finding the good in others, you can learn from each other's strong points and gradually improve.
看过这样一个实验：
I have seen an experiment like this:
有人让一群互相认识的实验者，分别写出自己欣赏的人与讨厌的人。
Someone asked a group of participants who knew each other to write down the people they admired and the people they hated.
他们统计的时候，发现了一个有趣的规律：
And when they did, they found an interesting pattern:
你讨厌的人，往往也是讨厌你的人；你欣赏的人，往往也是欣赏你的人。
The people you hate are often the people who hate you. The people you admire are often the people who admire you.
生活中就是这样，以敌意的目光看人，收获的必定也是敌意和轻视。
This is the way of life. If you look at people with hostile eyes, you will get hostility and contempt.
以赞赏的眼光看人，收获的同样是善意与赞赏。
If you look at people with an admiring eye, you will get goodwill and admiration.
懂得欣赏别人的人，一定会被别人欣赏。
People who appreciate others will be appreciated by others.
作家拉小姐认识一个创业者张姐，她的创业成功之道就在于此。
Writer pull miss know an entrepreneur Zhang Jie, her entrepreneurial success lies in this.
几年前，张姐刚起步做工厂，有一位供应商不太瞧得起她的生意。
A few years ago, when Sister Zhang was just starting a factory, one of her suppliers didn't think much of her business.
因为她工厂不大，所以总是在排单的时候，把她们的订单放后处理，好几次都延误货期。
Because her factory is not big, she always put their orders on the back burner when arranging the order, which delayed the delivery time several times.
而且每次搪塞的理由都一样：
And the reason for prevarication is always the same:
“老客户的大订单太多了，你们订单比较小，所以只能排后生产。”
"There are too many large orders from old customers. Your orders are small, so we can only postpone production."
对于这种不公平的情况，很多客户都会发脾气。
"There are too many large orders from old customers. Your orders are small, so we can only postpone production."
但是张姐没有，她反而觉得对方老客户多、生意好，材料品质一定很好。
But Sister Zhang did not, she felt that the other side of the old customers, business is good, material quality must be very good.
品质好，那么工厂管理一定也不差。
Good quality, then the factory management must not be bad.
她想着自己刚开工厂，一定要多跟优秀的企业学习。
She thought that she had just opened a factory and must learn more from excellent enterprises.
之后，她经常亲自登门找对方交流，了解对方的优势，边听边夸赞，但从不提订单延误的事情。
After that, she often visited the other side of the communication, understand the advantages of the other side, while listening to praise, but never mention the delay of the order.
被夸开心的供应商，跟她交流了很多生产和管理上的经验。
The supplier, who was praised as happy, communicated with her a lot of experience in production and management.
她不但学到很多新的知识，供应商还主动帮她改良了供应方案。
Not only did she learn new things, but the supplier also offered to help her improve her supply plan.
这让张姐工厂的生产效率，也提高了很多。
This has improved the production efficiency of Sister Zhang's factory.
最重要的是，他们十分认可张小姐，愿意提供更多的帮助。
Most importantly, they recognized Miss Zhang and were willing to offer more help.
后来，他们成了非常好的朋友。
Later, they became very good friends.
欣赏别人，是一种气度，更是一种美德。
Appreciate others, is a kind of tolerance, but also a virtue.
就像列夫托尔斯泰说的：
As Leo Tolstoy put it:
“在最好的、最友爱的、最单纯的关系中，称赞也是不可少的。
"Praise is necessary in the best, most loving, and most innocent relationships.
正如同要使车轮子转得滑溜一样，膏油是不可少的。”
Just as the wheels of a wheel are slippery, the ointments are necessary."
生活中，你若是爱挑别人的刺，就不要期待别人对你心平气和；
If you find fault with others in life, don't expect them to be calm with you.
你若是得理不饶人，就不要奢望别人对你和颜悦色；
If you are unreasonable, do not expect others to be pleasant to you;
你若不会欣赏别人，就不要指望别人认同你。
If you can't appreciate others, you can't expect them to agree with you.
欣赏是一种互补，是一种促进，也是一种和谐。
Appreciation is a kind of complement, is a kind of promotion, is also a kind of harmony.
欣赏多一点，人与人的距离才会近一点。
Appreciate a little more, the distance between people will be closer.
有人曾问钢铁大王卡内基：“如何与有缺点的人相处？”
Someone once asked Carnegie, the iron and steel magnate, "How to get along with defective people?"
卡内基回答：“很简单，只需盯住他们的优点，并努力忘却他们的缺点。”
"It's simple," Carnegie replied. "Just focus on their good points and try to forget their bad points."
此人不解：“难道对有些人的缺点要视而不见吗？”
The man wondered: "Is it necessary to turn a blind eye to the shortcomings of some people?"
卡内基耐心地回答说：
Carnegie patiently replied:
“与人相处，就像是挖金子。如果你想要挖出一盎司的金子，就要挖出成吨的沙子。
"Getting along with people is like digging for gold. If you want to dig up an ounce of gold, you have to dig up tons of sand.
可是你在挖掘的时候，关注的焦点是什么？你只是想得到一盎司的金子，并不想要那成吨的沙子，但你不能嫌弃这些沙子，因为金子就藏在其中。”
But when you dig, what do you focus on? You want an ounce of gold, you don't want tons of sand, but you can't turn your back on the sand, because that's where the gold is."
这世间，人人都是独特的个体，人人都有自己的优点。
In this world, everyone is a unique individual, everyone has their own advantages.
善于发现别人的优点，肯定他们的价值，是一种本事。
It is a skill to find the good in others and affirm their value.
1831年，波兰作曲家肖邦流亡到法国，定居巴黎。
1831 Polish composer Frederic Chopin fled to France and settled in Paris.
年轻的肖邦虽然才华出众，但当时并没有多少人认可。
The young Chopin was not widely recognized for his talent.
一个偶然的机会，肖邦结识了鼎鼎大名的匈牙利钢琴家李斯特。
A chance, Chopin met the famous Hungarian pianist Liszt.
两人一见如故，相见恨晚。
The two hit it off right away.
李斯特不想让肖邦这个人才埋没，决定给肖邦制造演出的机会。
Liszt did not want Chopin to be buried, so he decided to give him a chance to perform.
他在自己的个人演奏会上，邀请肖邦代替自己演奏。
He invited Chopin to play in his place at his own recitals.
最终肖邦获得了巴黎观众的认可，声名鹊起。
Eventually Chopin gained the approval of Parisian audiences and became famous.
李斯特提携后辈的品质，也为人所赞赏。
Liszt is also admired for his ability to bring up his younger generation.
这让我想起培根曾说过的一句话：
It reminds me of something Bacon once said:
“欣赏者心中有朝霞、露珠和常年盛开的花朵；漠视者冰结心城、四海枯竭、丛山荒芜。”
"In the heart of the beholder is the morning glow, the dew, and the perennial flower; Indifferent people frozen heart city, four seas dried up, barren mountains."
善于欣赏他人的人，都不简单。
People who are good at appreciating others are not simple.
只有学会欣赏他人，才能提升自己。
Only by learning to appreciate others can we improve ourselves.
欣赏别人的谈吐，会提高我们的口才；
Appreciate others talk, will improve our eloquence;
欣赏别人的大度，会开阔我们的心胸；
Appreciate the generosity of others, will broaden our minds;
欣赏别人的才华，会提升我们的境界。
Appreciating the talent of others will improve our realm.
越是格局大的人，越会欣赏别人。
The bigger the pattern, the more appreciate others.
有人说，卓越的人，从不嘲讽普通人的梦想，也从不吝啬对优秀者的掌声。
It has been said that the outstanding person never sneers at the dreams of ordinary people and applauds the outstanding.
你给出的掌声，可能会在未来某个时刻，以某种方式给你以生命的回声。
The applause you give may, at some point in the future, in one way or another, give you an echo of life.
你懂得欣赏别人，总有一天，也会有人会为你喝彩。
You appreciate others, and one day, someone will cheer for you.
